If you’ve found me on this page, you probably don’t need the research spelling out to you as to why you would benefit from having a doula’s support. I don’t take many doula jobs on anymore. It’s really quite a challenge to fit it in with the other aspects of working life, and so if I do take a doula role on, I give my all. This does come at a higher price though, as I restrict, hugely, who I work with as a therapist, as well as not travel, so I am fully here for as and when you need me. My birth doula role comes as a package.

What you get is:

An initial informal chat over a cup of tea, to meet up to make sure that we have a good match and you feel comfortable with me in your birthing space.
This costs £20.
This is completely without obligation. I would never be offended if you found a better fit elsewhere. I believe we need to be picky about finding the right person for our birthing space companions! (My reason for charging is that it shows how serious you are about me being your potential doula; it covers the cost of the travel and a little towards the time… and it always turns into a very informative and educational meet up anyway!)

A 2 hour Physiological Birth session, where we look at the mechanical side of birth. How your body does what it does, and what options may be thrown at you. This session is used as a debrief time too, covering past experiences and planning the next stage.

As part of the service I provide, it also includes your Hypnobirthing, NLP and EFT sessions. This is important to me, because then we enter your birth room, totally on the same page. We have worked together to ease any fears or concerns, and we are both using the same words to induce calm and positive relaxation.
I like to make sure we have had 2x long in-depth sessions (allowing 2 to 3 hours each).

Depending on how far on you were when we started working together, we can plan in a couple of hourly recap sessions as you progress through the time.

Once you hit your on-call period, which starts 10 days before you EDD (I like to make sure we have a regular chats and catch up over a cup of tea. Having the support nearby at all times is part of what I feel is crucial. For you and your partner. When your partner feels support too, then it makes your life easier also. I’m at the other end of the phone for chats,  WhatsApp, emails;  for questions or concerns at any time.

I am with you through your birth, only ever leaving your side if you need me to ( filling up your water bottle or getting you food, filling the pool or running a bath, for example). And even then, only if I see you have support present.

I don’t leave until you are settled with your baby in your arms and are ready for me to leave.

I will come back and spend a couple of hours with you around the Day 3 or 4 mark, where I remember with all of my babies, and both of my surrogate babies, I needed someone more than ever. If all you want to do in those couple of hours is sit and talk as you feed, I’ll sit and listen. If all you want to do is sleep, I’ll come and do something useful, like washing or housework, or a supermarket trip. Whatever works to make you feel supported in the best way on that day.

I’ll come back again for a debrief, at approximately 10 days to 2 weeks.

The fee for the package above is set at £1250 (plus mileage if beyond 15 miles)
This includes the on-call period, which begins 10  days before your original EDD, until whenever the baby arrives (having carried a 43 weeker, I understand that you don’t need any timescale pressures, so no additional births will be booked in that could potentially overlap. I actually try to keep the births that I attend to a maximum of  3 per year anyway nowadays.

It also includes your Physiological Birth session, your Hypnobirthing, NLP & EFT (Tapping) course, bottomless cups of tea and cake whenever needed. By limiting the births that I now support,  I am well and truly ‘cup filled’ and ready to be fully present with you.
By limiting the clients that I work with whilst I am on-call for you, again, I am fully present to be able to dedicate my time to supporting you and your family through this precious and sacred time.
I will make myself available for further employment if needed in the early days, as a postnatal doula. This will be at a reduced rate for you.

What experience can I bring to you:
I have carried 6 babies, and had very different birth experiences with my own, as well so many different types of birth attended with many different people.
We are all unique, and each birth experience is also unique.

Jay Kelly

My first birth was unsupported and traumatic. My second birth was really rather orgasmic (though I had no idea it was “a thing” at that point!). My third birth was the birth of my identical twins. Born naturally at 38 weeks, 10 minutes apart. My fourth birth was my 1st surrogate baby, who was a 43-week induction, 3 days of labour, and emergency CS. My fifth birth was the sibling of the first surrobub, and was a successful VBAC.

I have supported women and their partners through lots of different births, and one of the most profound things that I have observed at each birth is how amazing the woman’s partner is as a birth support when they feel someone has their back too.
I work very differently to the midwife. I do not do anything medical. I am your support, your sherpa, your listening ears, your extra pair of hands to hold you up and fetch whatever you need.  We can discuss and we can plan, we can be flexible and go with the flow.

Sheila Kitzinger and Jay Kelly    Ina May Gaskin and Jay Kelly    Michel Odent and Jay Kelly    Sarah Buckley and Jay Kelly

I have been working as a Clinical Hypnotherapist for over 11 years now. (Training in Clinical Hypnosis, Hypnotherapy, NLP, EFT), I did my Doula training with Nicola Goodhall and Hannah Robertson, under Adela Stockton’s training course. I have attended many courses since with different professionals in the field, to keep my skills and experiences broad. My first doula baby is now 14 years old!

My work (& passion) is in fertility, pregnancy and birth. I also work very spiritually and work with women who know and feel their baby is there, even before conception occurs. I feel birth is a continuation of this journey, and birth is a very spiritual occasion, where the birthing mother needs to feel safe and secure to go within, and find her strength, and go forth and bring her baby to her arms.

If you feel that what I have to offer may suit you, then do drop me a message and we’ll chat further.

Postnatal doula fees are £25 per hour (daytime minimum of hour depends on your distance from my home)
For a full day  rate (either 8am to 4pm or 10am to 6pm) is £180
Full night rate (9pm til 6am) is £220 (or £30 per hour for fewer hours.) I cannot offer this service very often though due to work and family commitments.

Warmest wishes

Jay x